Ephesians 5:25 says that husband should love their wives just as Christ loved the church.
Just as Christ.
If men are going to love their wives just as Christ loved the church, they must start by modeling themselves after Jesus. The first step is to establish a personal relationship with him. The relationship includes recognizing that he is the Lord of our lives
Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. (1 Corinthians 11:3)
How can a husband love his wife just as Christ loved the church?
By giving himself up for her. (Ephesians 5:25)
Jesus saw the need of the church and gave himself up to meet that need. Men, we must learn to live for our wives. We must learn to meet their needs. The marriage is not just about you. It’s about her, too.
By making her holy. (Ephesians 5:26-27)
If the wife is going to be holy, the husband must be holy. Just like Jesus sets the standard of holiness for the church to follow, the husband must set the standard of holiness for his wife to follow.
Husbands, don’t allow impurities into your marriage relationship. Keep yourself holy. No pornography, no inappropriate relationships with other women, no careless TV viewing. Keep yourself holy, and you set the foundation for a holy marriage and for a holy wife without spot or wrinkle.
By committing himself to his wife for a lifetime. (Ephesians 5:31)1 Corinthians 13:7 says that love always perseveres. Jesus perseveres in his love for the church. We’ve certainly given him many reasons to stop loving us, but he continues to love us and lead us.
Men, your wife needs to know that you are committed to her for the rest of your lives. She has to know that you won’t talk about leaving her because she makes occasional mistakes, or even frequent mistakes.
If you’re going to love your wife the way that Jesus loves the church, don’t use the word divorce. It should not be in your vocabulary. Jesus has told the church, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” That is what our wives need to hear, in word and deed.